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Farewell Cupcake: A Sample Eulogy for a Sister

Contributed by: Sabrina Dolling, San Mateo, California, USA

Sabrina, the writer of this poignant sample eulogy for a sister submitted it for publication because she understands how difficult it is to pull meaningful words together while struggling with shock and grief. 

When her younger sister, Jessica, died as the result of an accident, reading the example eulogies sent in by others helped her prepare her own deeply personal and heartfelt tribute.

We hope "Farewell Cupcake" serves to both comfort and inspire you. Please feel free to use it as a starting point, or reference, to write the speech you need.

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Farewell Cupcake: a eulogy for my little sister

When I sat down to write this speech, I found myself overwhelmed with so many beautiful things I wanted to say about Jessica. None of us have had easy lives, but this is by far the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.

Jessica was not just beautiful on the outside—she had a soul full of kindness and light. She had an incredible ability to see the beauty in others, even when they couldn’t see it in themselves.

Take my car, for example. Most people look at it and see an old, beat-up piece of junk. But Jessica saw through its dents and scratches. She loved it because she felt the energy of all the people who had signed the inside of it. I promised her that once she graduated, I would teach her how to drive stick, and the car would be hers. I knew she would love and appreciate it in a way no one else could.

She wrote something special on the steering wheel, taking up the entire space: "Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning to dance in the rain."

Those words remind me not to focus on the sorrow of her passing, but instead to cherish the gift of her presence in our lives. Jessica made us better people simply by being herself.

Our sisterly bond

I was honored to be her big sister. When I looked at Jessica, I saw a reflection of myself—but with her own spark, individuality, and a life full of promise ahead of her.

I called her my "Cupcake" because she was so sweet, and she, in turn, called me her "Sugar Momma" because I spoiled her every chance I got. She made me feel like the coolest big sister in the world, and I’ll carry that feeling with me forever.

Jessica was vibrant, creative, and full of color. Her personality was too big for this world to contain. I remember the first time I held her as a baby; she was instantly the light of my life. One of my happiest memories is her knocking on my bedroom door as a little kid, asking if we could blast music and dance together.

Whenever I was feeling down, she would find a way to cheer me up with her corny sayings like, “You go, girl!” or “Turn that frown upside down!” Her joy was infectious, and her ability to lift others up was unmatched.

The pain behind the happiness

As bright and happy as she seemed, Jessica also carried pain. Often, those who bring the most joy to others are the ones hiding the heaviest burdens.

When I first heard about the accident, my heart was shattered. I asked myself so many “what-ifs.” What if I hadn’t moved away? What if I had been a better role model? But I remind myself that Jessica no longer has to endure the struggles of this world. She is now a light that will shine forever in our hearts.

Lessons from Jessica's life

Jessica taught me many things in her short time with us:

• To see beauty in unexpected places.
• To love and cherish yourself the way others love you.
• To live life fully, embracing joy even in the face of storms.

She loved each and every one of us deeply. 

And when we miss her, we can look to the stars, knowing her light lives on in the universe and within all of us.

As I say goodbye to my Cupcake, I leave you with this: Tell the people you love how much they mean to you. Don’t assume they already know. Appreciate the good times, because you never know when they will become your last cherished memories.

Thank you.

Resources for writing eulogies

Here's a collection of resources to help you craft a unique and meaningful eulogy for your sister.

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This will guide you through the entire process step-by-step: from collecting up the stories and thoughts you want to share to practicing the delivery of your eulogy. 

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Has a sister of yours died? Feel free to share your memories or reflections. Together, we can support one another in honoring those we’ve loved. It can make a real difference as Sabrina, the person who wrote this eulogy, knows.

She returned to reread her eulogy for Jessica after it had been online for a while and had attracted many appreciative comments. This is what she said:

"I've just had the chance to read the comments people have left. Thank you so much for the love and support. It was reading other eulogies that really helped me pull mine for Jessica together.

I would be honored if my words were used to help you with yours. It means so much that I have helped others in their process too.

We never forget, but we learn to appreciate how blessed we were to have amazing people in our lives, even if only for a short time. Love to you all."

If this eulogy resonated with you, feel free to use it as a guide or adapt it to honor your sister. Sharing this page may help others find comfort and inspiration too.