Lessons my Dad taught me - a eulogy for my father
Contributed by: David R Gal, Orange County, California, USA
It's understandable to feel pressured when you have a eulogy to write. How do you start? How do you sincerely honor the man who was your Dad? What do you say?
Here's an example of a eulogy for a father from his son. It's a heartwarming, sincere collection of special memories and reflections, contributed by its writer to help other sons with a eulogy to prepare. As you read it, you'll feel the love and respect David has for his father radiating through his words.
Below it you'll find comments from readers, as well as links to more example eulogies and to step-by-step guidelines for writing the speech, which include access to a useful free printable outline for structuring what you want to say.
There is a special bond that a father has with his son. That bond builds strength over the time and events that each of us are fortunate enough to share together in our lives.
I am privileged, honored, and extremely lucky to be my father's only son. As I reflect over the years that we shared together, he was a great Dad.
He always led by example and taught me numerous life lessons of what it takes to become a man. Here's thirty of the main ones.
My Dad would always be there to give advice, if I asked for it, and he taught me how to do many things. Guy-kinda things.
Like how to use a power tool, tie a knot, sharpen a knife, bait a hook, catch a baseball, build a fire, pitch a tent, gut a fish, drive a nail, fold an airplane, plant a tree, grill a steak, read the stars, mix a cocktail, bluff a poker hand, and many more.
When I look back now, I think, 'hey, wait a minute', much of what you taught me to do, eventually by myself, was actually child labor in disguise: how to wash the car, mow the grass, sweep sidewalks, prune the shrubs, change the oil, take out the trash, or shine a pair of shoes!
However, these are things Fathers pass down to their sons, so my son, you can blame and thank Grandpa for you having to learn how do them all too!
There were things that he shared or said to me and my sisters when we were young that I would later come to learn and respect like: listening to classical music, the art of being patient, thinking things through before you react, shutting the front door because we don't live in a barn, and correctly reading a racing form.
My father always loved the thrill of thoroughbred horse racing, going to the track, and following the ponies. I remember during racing season, in the morning you would always find him ready for work, dressed in a tie and finely pressed short sleeved dress shirt, sitting at the kitchen counter, having a cup of coffee with toast, and reading the back of the paper to see who won, or which jockey was riding which horse that day. He loved doing that.
A special thank you needs to go out to American Pharaoh. My father got his wish fulfilled to finally see another Triple Crown winner before he passed away.
He also loved to fish. I will always remember and cherish the truly special times we spent together in some of the most remote and beautiful locations in the world, chasing schools of tuna or dorado, or trolling for marlin. Cracking a beer at dawn to celebrate the sun slicing through the horizon, with the anticipation of finding fish, and then working together to fight them and bringing them on the boat, these were great times I will never forget.
Some days we didn't catch anything, but it really didn't matter. When we did, we would always joke about who it was that caught the bigger fish, or who caught the most.
Now that you have passed Dad, I can imagine that there are a lot of fish celebrating that they get to continue swimming with their friends rather than being hooked on the end of your line
I realize that it was not the pride Dad had seeing (or was that 'letting') his son catch bigger or more fish, but it was the loads of fun we had doing what we love. But most importantly, it was doing it together as Father and Son.
Thank you, Dad for all that you taught me. I am so very proud to be your son. I love you and will miss you dearly.
Much love always,
Your beloved son David.
Dee says: Excellent. I love all the heart-filled words.
Steve Sawe says: This is a touching eulogy. I am so moved by it and will use one or two ideas from it.
Gavin says: Thanks David for those inspiring words for your dad and for sharing your life stories.
Michele says: God Bless. Thank you for sharing. I feel as though I know your Dad through your lovely words. He sounds like an amazing person, I'm sure you miss him dearly.
Bruce says: Thank you David. Your expressions of love for your Dad are great guidance for composing my farewell for my own Dad.
Jafar Hussein Ahmed says: Thank you very much. Your work is full of feeling. I liked it all.
Susan, who owns this website, says: Thank you David for sharing your Dad with us. I love your poignant mix of stories and humor. You've celebrated your Dad's life and his gifts beautifully and in allowing your words to be published here, he and your love for him goes on. On behalf of everyone who comes to this site for solace, inspiration, courage to write, thank you once more.
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